Jennifer Lopez’ 2019 blockbuster film, Hustlers, shone new light on the daily life of a stripper. In the movie, the gorgeous character, Trace Lysette, complains about her boyfriend frequently visiting her at her job. His jealousy drives her insane. To a point that she even feels like leaving him.
Many men fantasize about dating exotic dancers. The reality is far from fantasy and dating women in the adult entertainment industry can really test your limits and boundaries.
The typical misconception is that dating a stripper will result in late night lap dances and wild bedroom sex. This couldn’t be further from the truth. If you want to know what it’s really like dating an exotic dancer, continue reading.
YOU’LL PROBABLY MEET AT HER WORK PLACE
Most exotic dancers have met their partners while working. This, in itself can already be confusing. Strippers are naturally flirtatious and charming, so whether the two of you have a real connection is only to be discovered outside of her work place.
Going on a few dates will be daunting, at first. When the love connection is there, she’ll start opening up to you and you can go from dating to being exclusive.
SHE’S NOT GOING TO CHANGE HER PROFESSION
Once you start dating a stripper, you are going to want to help her find a better job or change her career path. What men don’t understand is that some women really enjoy taking their clothes off and dancing in front of men.
It’s her career and for her to do it, she has to keep fit, completely change her daily routine, and endure a lot from greedy men.
Many exotic dancers really enjoy stripping. They make a decent living out of it. Enrolling in college and moving on to an office job might not be in her dreams. So, if you start dating a stripper, remember that she isn’t going to change into a primary school teacher overnight.
Read this interesting story about how a stripper met the love of her life while working and continued stripping: https://www.thrillist.com/sex-dating/nation/reality-of-dating-a-stripper
SETTING BOUNDARIES ARE DIFFERENT
In every relationship there is a set of boundaries that both partners have to adhere to. These boundaries are way different when you’re dating a stripper. Asking her to not be naked in front of other men or to flirt with them isn’t something you can request.
Both of you should have clear demands within the relationship, that doesn’t make either one of you feel trapped or controlled.
Many strippers have confessed that their husbands and fiancés have asked them to wear their wedding rings to work. Exotic dancers can be seen working with their wedding rings on, as an effect this might bring them a different client base. As many married men can relate to her more.
SHE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT HER NIGHT AT WORK
You can’t pretend that her job doesn’t exist. All women in the work force needs a supportive partner who listens to her complain about her day (or night). Even if you have to listen to her tell you stories about men grabbing her ass and making comments about her body, you have to be open to the conversation.
Read about a stripper’s emotional roller coaster ride at her job right here.
THIS DOESN’T MEAN YOU CAN DO WHAT YOU WANT
Don’t assume that because your girl is getting naked in front of other men, that you can do the same. This is a big no-no! Unfortunately, when you date a stripper, you aren’t allowed to flirt with other girls on the streets. Let’s face it – you’re not getting paid to do it, so it will count as cheating.
Then there’s the big conundrum of introducing her to your parents. Before introducing her, make sure that you are in this relationship for the long haul. You can discuss as a couple, whether you want to inform your family about her work or not.
Be very sensitive about this topic around your family, especially if they are conservative.
As long as you respect your woman’s work and show her kindness and understanding. Her heart will be yours. Even if her body can be seen and enjoyed by other men. As long as she’s happy, that’s all that matters.